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speaker 2: this call may be recorded press one to accept can you hold this call hey can you hold hi can you hear me okay okay I got to get so I did one of the steps I did it did tell me to shut down and like turn it off and turn it back on and I did not do that okay so I might be able to see that okay well you you've never had to switch networks before though that's true and I also would change the settings from a web interface typically although I guess you could use to put it on Monday I took the part that my mom bought for the truck in this weekend and it works way better now but I tore an O-ring and I think I have a replacement in the shed so that was hoping to come get that yeah this the Saturday was supposed to be the hazardous waste disposal have you heard whether it's been canceled or not have not heard yeah I can check into that okay but I I need the bike shed here emptied okay cuz I can't keep and I have bikes in my house okay do you think that's going to be possible I might have to put some of that stuff in the shed but yeah okay but I need the replacement o-ring cuz my truck leaks all of its coolant out over a very short period of time without it okay well maybe if you're coming to the shed anyways you could look in the shed and decide what from the shed goes in the trash can and what from the shed should just be stored in your trailer and what from your shed needs to be sold that way when you do clean out the the bike think there'll actually be somewhere to move it to if you need to change you had represented to me that you were going to try to sell your some camera equipment yeah follow through why is that happened by what why have you chosen not to follow through with your commitment to me I was busy doing other stuff for you so when somebody says I want to buy the camera equipment from you there's a decision making process happening where you think through all of the consequences of your options and you make a conscious decision to not just whatever answer the person's question or tell them whether you can come off your price or tell them where you're going to meet knowing that that would take 20 seconds you feel like you're thinking that that I did something like that that's not what I'm talking about I'm talking about the other I'm talking about when you're making that decision not to do that you feel like you feel like that's calibrated to reality and the actual consequences of what would happen if you took the time out to do that and you think that there's a greater benefit to ignoring that responsibility in that commitment I don't know and yes do you feel like that's good decision-making oh no I don't know how to answer your question I think other things I needed to get done so I understand I understand what the thought process is that allows you to not feel guilt and not feel shame and not feel like you're doing something wrong by not following through with your commitment to me but we have severe broken trust in our relationship because of your willful decisions to not follow through on your commitments to me and lack of ownership of negligence to follow through on your commitments and that's a problem because I'm having to make decisions about whether to let you back into my life based on whether I can trust you to do the things you say you're going to do and when you're consistent and coming up within your mind justifications about why you don't actually have to do what you committed to because there's something else that you could spend your time on this more urgent even though this month asked would only take you twenty seconds that's not an executive function problem that's a prioritization problem and a character problem I'm sorry I deleted Facebook I will add it back and talk to the people that access the cameras what I will talk to the people that asked about camera equipment hold on this is a whole different thing than what you just represented to me Dustin so you weren't honest with me it's a great idea well if the reason that you didn't sell your camera equipment is because you deleted Facebook then when I asked you about why you hadn't followed you through on your commitment with you try to give an answer that makes you look heroic oh you are focusing on taxes you're responsible about taxes that's why I thought if you make a conscious pro-active it's just what I was doing and I believe they look like two days ago and have anything to do with any of the yes it does because they weren't when you made a decision when you made a decision to delete Facebook you weren't thinking through all of the actual consequences of deleting Facebook page not being forthright with me about why you decided to do that say anything about why I decided to do that I know so but I'm saying that is that is relevant to the question of why you're not selling your camera equipment it's no it's fine because I was doing taxes but today to Facebook a couple of days ago I'm sorry I didn't tell you I deleted Facebook until I told you why did you do that I shouldn't I mean why am I having to ask you this question I know I'm just not understanding why you're not go ahead tell me since I had to ask are you why you deleted Facebook like not be on Facebook anymore yes you could be honest about it and tell me did tell you know I mean why you don't like being on Facebook do you like being on Facebook you're twisting this around on me when this is the time in your life that you need to take ownership of your own Facebook Behavior because that's something that you're dealing with and yourself it's problematic for you to not be open so hold on find the news me hey sorry about that all right sorry about that so that's the problem we have here is that you are not being very open about the problems that Facebook was causing for you and without me knowing about that I can't be supportive of that so it was a recipe for disaster because what ended up happening is without me knowing anything about it I put you in a situation of having to do something like having to reinstall an app that's not good for your mental health how can I support you if I don't know what your struggle is you know I didn't want people posting on my Facebook after I died well why didn't you just update your memorialization set settings I didn't know my Facebook the exist after I died I didn't want to see the setting for that I'm going to set something after I die what I don't I didn't want somebody tampering with my Facebook okay so a minute ago when I asked why you didn't like being on Facebook and you said to me do you like being on Facebook you were you were trying to be dishonest the talking about dating Facebook but you're telling me right now that your real reason for deleting the app had nothing to do with your current behavior on Thursday you were trying to obscure the truth you were trying to obscure the fact that it had more to do with memorial vacation Facebook then it actually has to do with your day-to-day Behavior right now I didn't say anything to do with my day-to-day Behavior yeah cuz when I asked why you said you didn't say because I don't you know want it to continue after my death you said do you like being on Facebook and you were going to use the fact that I have some qualms about being on Facebook as a cover story for your real reason for deleting it like I said I cuz I don't want to be on Facebook no I asked you specifically why you would deleted it and you specifically went out of your way to not directly answer the question you have a real honesty problem Dustin and lying by Omission is something that has been identified in you through every every phase of your life people know that you can't be trusted to tell the whole truth if it is a it creates a trust problem in addition to you not following through on commitments when you're asked questions you figure out ways to answer them without telling the whole truth and it's because you don't want people to know the whole truth you didn't want me to know that you were concerned about what was going to happen to your Facebook after your desk okay and what is the problem with that I don't it's called Lying by omission it's it's very toxic it creates it stops you from being able to have a real relationship with somebody you're not being honest you can't imagine that you're being honest wage just because you didn't speak a sentence that was untruthful you're not trustworthy and I can't I can't be in actual mutuality with you I can't have a real relationship with you when I don't know what's going on. Okay I'm sorry do you want to be on Facebook or do you want to quit Facebook I don't know I'll add it back well I mean you didn't actually delete it you just I mean he didn't delete your account you didn't I'm looking at it I'm looking at it right now looking at it right now oh you mean you like froze it I removed it okay thank you signed in with me yes but I guess I guess so so you're actually fine with being on Facebook I don't know do you want to quit I don't know I'm out of it how you doing something that my Facebook no know why what was going on I mean I'm on it but I need to look at the printer if I come over and no I don't even want you to come inside the house what happened on what you did on Sunday was really psychologically damaging to our children and I don't know if you recognize that while you were doing it but you've got a lot of work to do on your cellphone now it's going to be safe for our kids for you and I to be in the same room together I'm looking at your notifications it says you have a new friend suggestion Julie Hansen did you look at her Facebook page I have the order it's been saying that about all kinds of ACH people lately to figured out I work there so now no yeah no because she doesn't even lose that she says she cuz she doesn't like those people don't even list that they work there yeah but they're all like affiliated oh like they were already friends with each other I don't know I think I only have one that I barely or don't really know that works them yeah more likely they've been looking at your Facebook page there's nothing on my Facebook page what I don't go on Facebook very much to do with whether another person thinks huh I wonder what's going on with Dustin and types your name into the search bar that doesn't mean that they actually that doesn't mean they actually look at my Facebook page and I'm not talking about her I'm talking about everybody at your work and saying that doesn't mean that Facebook knows where you work and knows that they work there to it means that they've typed your name into the search bar I'm saying one of them probably did and they just those but they're all Affiliated people okay I'll just is it okay if I just block her a blocker rather not well I mean I would think that there'd be nothing you want to do in your life more than blocker all right reason or is there something I'm missing I don't think there's anything you're missing except that I don't know I like Julie I don't want her to feel like I'm blocking her on Facebook and that's weird I would think that you would want her to feel like you're blocking her in every way you can possibly block her I think she already feels like that so blocking her on Facebook a little over-the-top when we're not even Facebook friends that's in your sick all right like I said I mean just saying what you just said is mentally ill that's not a normal thing for you to be thinking and feeling about her right now. that's not what I'm thinking or feeling anything about her and so it it up you were you were you just had thoughts and feelings I don't know why you would deny that you were just having thoughts and feelings wage so you brought it up so it wasn't thinking they're feeling anything about you and I'm talking about after I brought it up those thoughts and feelings are very warped from reality and they're not reasonable they don't make sense you are not operating from a place that makes any sense not operating at all area I've ever see or talk at all what you're saying right now is not what you're saying right now is not reasonable it's not reasonable for you to change the subject to something completely unrelated which is the fact that you don't talk to her anymore your idea that the fact that you liked her needs to be a priority and it matters that you like her and you want to act on your light for her that's disturbing doing and the fact that to accept the fact that you're making a decision about whether I should block or right now a factor in the decision I know but a factor in your decision to not desire that is that you like her and you care about her feelings that is disturbing and and then the fact that the disturbing about that that is disturbing that should never be a factor that should never never there's not a there's not a man on the face of this planet that I could ever like enough for my admiration of him to be even a grain of salt factor into my decision making relative to the lengths that I'm going to go to to hurt him and make him cry or even physically endanger his life to protect my relationship with my family it is really messed up that you're thinking about your lights for her as a factor in your decision making it is really disturbing that you're considering acting like I have some relationship with her that I don't have I'm not you just told a lie you changed the subject to make an accusation against me that was untruthful it is not truthful that I am acting like you have a relationship with her that you don't you do not have you should not tell me lies about myself I don't deserve that I asked honestly and I act in accordance with the truth and I did not claim that you have a relationship with her that you do not have I don't appreciate you telling me it doesn't make any sense I don't know that you just told me another lie about myself I don't appreciate you telling me that what I said does not make any sense what I am actually referring to is statements that you've actually made in this conversation so don't act like I have pretended that you have a relationship with her that you don't have just because that would be a much easier thing to argue against inside it didn't actually do that let's talk about reality of what you actually said which is that you would feel bad about blocking her because you really like her and you're concerned that she does feel like you're breaking her in other ways right now out of your life and you would be concerned that she would think that blocking her on Facebook was over the top but that's all I'm referring to I'm only referring to what actually happened so don't blow it out of proportion and pretend that I'm accusing you of anything besides what you actually said and did today I'm just giving you the reality check that that thought in that feeling about you liking her about you caring about her feelings about you being worried about how she feels about you blocking her from your life and what she would think and feel if she found out she was blocked on Facebook that comes from a distorted disturbing. Place trashy trashy trashy people think that way about their extramarital relationships you have a very trashy way of thinking your mom and your dad had a very trashy way of thinking Julie has a very trashy way of thinking functional people do not think and feel that way and so I'm just giving you the reality check that those thoughts and feelings are disturbing and they're not okay can you should be able to accept what I'm saying as true because you know that I'm not trashy you shouldn't feel the need to accuse me of accusing you of anything other than what you actually said so are you wanting to quit Facebook did you ever read the book you got about that I read some of it I ended up with everything. That one more person so really the only the only reason you quit was because of your memorialization settings deer dancer you without it saying that on my that was a factor I also have calmed about being on Facebook and generally what are your qualms social media makes people in the plastic banana and pretends unhealthy features and you're more worried about like other people account affects other people or you're more worried about how it affects you I am worried about how it affects Society right I agree my mom's calling your mom's calling now yeah when's the last time you talked to her I don't know check your recent call log driving oh where are you going what day do you normally ask your mom perhaps with that it's not out hey there hey there