speaker 1:  this call may be recorded press one to hello hello
speaker 2: how's it going good where are you moving to to Hilliard I told you that
speaker 1: until you moved to Hilliard or the other thing too
speaker 2: well I'm going to Cape Cod July 10th so I thought maybe just stay with the laws for hold on so three weeks
speaker 1: for three weeks you're staying at the
speaker 2: laws yeah
speaker 1: where are you putting our
speaker 2: things just in a you know a pack rat like a pod could I I I told C hey this week and he said the human might want to steal things from your office
speaker 1: separately I might want to store stuff from my office
speaker 2: separately yeah yeah
speaker 1: because that's what you want or what
speaker 2: I don't I don't I don't know what you want huh I mean I guess obviously a lot of I don't know what you call it expensive like really hi ticket luxury kind of stuff that you haven't seen to need since you moved out
speaker 1: where are you thinking that I can store things
speaker 2: that's probably something you should just talk to see a
speaker 1: about why would I talk to about that I live in a tiny little room it's not like I can put the stuff in my
speaker 2: life
speaker 1: did you NCAA make a plan for what's supposed to happen to me you're not wanting to share it with
speaker 2: me no may I told them I wasn't sure what I'm going to do about the items in your office because I'm trying to get this house ready for tenant move-in is there something you're wanting to have happen I'm a little I guess I'm concerned that feels like you're wanting need to be responsible for your decisions
speaker 1: I don't want to be responsible for my
speaker 2: decisions okay is there something specific you're wanting like from me
speaker 1: I live with constant extreme anxiety about everything and a big part of that is I give you all of my money so I really don't have any decisions to make and it feels like UNCA have been talking to them about your
speaker 2: plans and let me talk to a three-week I talked to him this
speaker 1: week he tells me quite often about your conversations or at least getting information from you so
speaker 2: I know but that actually is indicative that he spends a lot of time talking to you off so if he brings up and said you know twenty times in one week and then twenty times the next week all forty of those times are referring to a single conversation I had wage you know what I mean but you're you know you're on getting you all my money think I don't know it's just a little bit awkward I guess
speaker 1: sorry. Could you so the cameras $600 by the way I'm going to be ft the money into you
speaker 2: okay I'm just saying it's it's a little bit like a horse like you know you giving me these checks when you could just take them by VyStar and deposit of yourself
speaker 1: like put me off of the account
speaker 2: do you have your own account page
speaker 1: Quest yeah but you have your own. Me
speaker 2: okay I'm not really enjoying you pointing out how artfully you have the whole situation to live in a fantasy in which I've taken all your money and you don't have access to it because it's not true and any forensic accountant can clearly see it's not true it's just a charade that you're playing out for some reason and I don't know what you're getting out of your
speaker 1: asking me for that literally came willingly do you do it with you I'm not I'm not willing to do it but I
speaker 2: it's not real it's not real that you can't access your own money it's not real that I need to be dead to deposit checks you're just making a big show of
speaker 1: asked me to do not have access to any of their money and I've given that to you because you asked me
speaker 2: for it should have that access
speaker 1: to ask me to remove myself from your account and I
speaker 2: did that all of your paycheck still go up the LED and we're both on that you still have your individual account at Fidelity and you can freely transfer between the two as you've done plenty of times and you know it you still have a vice your account I did it bring your own yes I'm just saying the fact that you've done it proved that you're able to do it I I understand that you're so
speaker 1: you asked me to give all the money to you know that's done that and I did it because I care about you and I'm trying to show you love and grace and there's no reason to argue about it I'm not complaining that you have the money down saying that I have to
speaker 2: security you have the security because you could go and you could get all the money out of fidelity right now you have access to it there's no reason for you to be so
speaker 1: you can say that I'm abusive and that I didn't do what I told you I was going to do like I'm not going to do that I told you I would give you all the money I'd given you
speaker 2: all the money like I said I am not enjoying this you enjoyed it either I don't do it please stop doing this please I need to move everything in this house and I need to move to Hilliard I don't need to argue with you about whether you have access to our our money because we both know it wage now you might say something different in your counseling sessions because you're processing through some deeper levels of imagined victimization and having it set
speaker 1: up not imagining them you know we quoted you and your request as me that I have satisfied out of love for you there's
speaker 2: I know but it's not going on there's a lot of imagination Dustin
speaker 1: zero imagination going on need an actual request that I have actually granted rep
speaker 2: please stop please stop it's because you were not faithful to me financially that I am literally making myself homeless for a month in order for us to get in a position to be able to make ends meet it's because you were so out of control with your spending that we it's we were so out of control I know you want to you want to spend your whole house away with your out-of-control it was completely out of control spending you couldn't stop yourself from buying nice tools you couldn't stop yourself from buying a heated jackets you couldn't stop yourself from buying tobacco products jacket you did Dustin you did you couldn't stop yourself from spending money on Amazon music and audible it just it never ended and in order to satisfy this requirement evidently that I had you just got your mom's credit card so that when you had an Impulse to spend you could still do it while imagining that you're some victim of a financially controlling Weiss and if that's what you need in order to imagining anything well you can imagine that but it's not real it's not real it is real that you're spending was out of control it is real that I didn't feel financially safe with you but it's not real that you can't access your own funds it's not real that you need to hand me a paper check and make me be the one to deposit it that's not
speaker 1: real you told me to give you all the money so I gave you all the money I haven't put any money into an account with your request because that's what you wanted
speaker 2: okay well that's not true all you pay checks into an account that you have access to so let's just set off this
speaker 1: conversation I don't even know that because I haven't heard about it a paycheck it's not
speaker 2: like you've made transfers from one facility account that
speaker 1: I have not transferred anything I haven't touched any money that I've earned in literally months except for what I get for but
speaker 2: it didn't get your mom finances your addictions and you're out of control spending and your impulses because that allows you to have this crazy victim mindset that you are being swindled by a financially abusive life and that seems to be something that nobody messed up
speaker 1: right now and so I'm trying to take
speaker 2: it I'll stop trying to take it away from you it's that sometimes and that's what
speaker 1: you need nobody said that Erin do you happen to know is c a kick me out of this house or is he wanting me to stay here
speaker 2: have you asked in that
speaker 1: I mean we talked about it before the last I heard which was extremely recently I was staying here but then you changed your situation as far as when I understood to be going on dramatically and he's been out of town for two weeks so I have no idea what his response is to that you've obviously talked to him when I
speaker 2: haven't Dustin I talked to him once great
speaker 1: him about your situation that has been changing dramatically so I don't know
speaker 2: I don't I don't like I said I don't I don't like how you're speaking to me every reason you didn't need to work what you just said the way that you worded it I'm
speaker 1: sorry. You're
speaker 2: you're really being very covertly accusatory right now
speaker 1: covertly accusatory of light yeah I don't like it you
speaker 2: tell me if you've changed what you said you were doing dramatically it just feels I
speaker 1: didn't say that you changed what you said you were doing I said your situation has changed dramatically and I just found out and I
speaker 2: okay if so many times though and it's making me uncomfortable at this entire conversation is making me uncomfortable I'm not enjoying talking to you and I can't understand what you're requesting from me do you want money for
speaker 1: you to have any claim that you want items from me
speaker 2: do
speaker 1: you have any information about what is intentions are relative to my housing
speaker 2: situation no he was
speaker 1: vague he was vague like it's time for him to move on no he was vague like
speaker 2: like I don't think that we're helping Dustin
speaker 1: okay so that means that he's right here
speaker 2: I don't know I mean it doesn't indicate a timeline to me but
speaker 1: no but you know what I mean last time was get out so that's what I need to know
speaker 2: okay
speaker 1: so you said
speaker 2: you're treating me poorly because you were worried this whole conversation that CA is going to ask you to move
speaker 1: out no I'm trying to treat you poorly at all I'm trying to figure out what's going on that you're heightened level of intensity is that's what you're worried about I'm sorry I'm not trying to be intense I'm trying to figure trying to
speaker 2: figure out is okay for you to say what would you like I am worried that I'm going to be asked to leave them Donald residence like you can say that and then I know what's actually going on and it's not completely befuddled by why you're talking the way you're talking about like because I'll know because you're told
speaker 1: me okay I got yeah I guess I am worried worried about that yes okay that's also in the context of you wanting to have my income and I don't have any other
speaker 2: income I'm not that's not something that you have to give me and I keep telling you that that's not real Dustin your
speaker 1: money directly legally obligated to give it to you I have I have done that out of service and love for you because you asked for it okay to do it on the service end of interview I'm not saying that I have a legal obligation to leave a message that I don't think that that that
speaker 2: Arrangement then it ceases to be loving and serving so it's it's actually
speaker 1: have a conversation about it because if that's meant to change so that we can have ten schools and I need to know
speaker 2: that it's not real that it's logged in serving me and it's not real that I have access to all your paychecks and you don't neither of those things are real it's something that you do for whatever your motivation is often but when you think about it the way that you've been speaking to me about it it's not a loving you're serving thing to do it's a really really hurtful thing to do and I wish that you had never done it took it really had to me the way that you have managed to make me look really bad to a lot of people because of your decision to take that action on
speaker 1: your part who did I make you look bad too
speaker 2: I didn't I don't need to answer that and I don't choose to answer that
speaker 1: are you saying you don't want me doing that anymore I don't
speaker 2: understand I'm saying I can't imagine that if you stop doing that I would suddenly be treated better by you or be honored by you so it's not something I'm weighing in on Monday but again you're not really doing it Dustin what you're really doing
speaker 1: literally giving you my paychecks four months I haven't touched them I don't do that is that's an honor what I can give you all of my money
speaker 2: we both more crazy models credit card we know that you use your mother's credit because you can't actually live
speaker 1: without wage what
speaker 2: did you hold that needed to change never changed you never became transparent with me about your spending you never learn self-control you never sacrificed something you wanted on a given day because you want to disable home College expenses would never happen it's
speaker 1: not true haven't
speaker 2: that's fine tell me it's not true and now I suddenly feel honored by you I mean this is absurd I'm not controlling your money I'm not taking your paycheck I'm not stopping you from having access to them all you've done is tried to Hood with that work as well as you hoped
speaker 1: it would what didn't work as well as I hoped it
speaker 2: would blinking mean
speaker 1: I'm trying to happen you ask me if you can hold the money and I gave it to you like
speaker 2: no, I didn't speak with a mini Dustin I wanted to did change but not because I want money it's because I want what's best for you and what's best for you is to work for your addiction what's best for you with the stop being selfish what's best for you is to stop blaming people outside of yourself for all your problems with best for you is to look inward why things are the way they are none of those things have
speaker 1: happened I disagree with that like literally go to counseling three times a week to work on things and that you work on how to do better at blaming other people that's all that comes with haven't blamed for anything that they haven't done and I haven't oh my
speaker 2: gosh what every time you go to a counseling session you find a new way to turn it around on
speaker 1: me I don't understand
speaker 2: you counselor he helps you come up with all these great ideas about what's wrong with your wife money well spent time well spent great job
speaker 1: Dustin I would like to speak to my counselor so that your perspective can be heard and ask for that
speaker 2: okay I know and it feels very hurtful and you already know that it's upsetting to me when I say that you already know that it's manipulative and you already know that it puts the burden on me to something that's really your problem and yet here you are bringing it up and saying it again for the probably six hundred time anyways negating all of the work that I've done to try to help your counselors and gaining all of the input that I've given you into what needs to change invested really home and he said it you thought about whether to hurt me by saying it and you chose to yes her Aaron again tonight by saying it again that's your choice and you made it
speaker 1: hurt you I'm trying to get something going on between us ironed out that both of us can at least be functional and I I'm not trying to get you to speak to my counselor to hurt you or to manipulate you trying to get you to talk about if I can check your counselor how about if I can fax you want me to feel bad about that do you want me to feel like that's the reason that we have problems in between us because I won't talk to your counselor okay then it's manipulative that just means that you talk to the counselor jobs whatever whatever good can come of you talking to a professional psychotherapist is not going to happen that's all that I want to
speaker 2: communicate yeah but you're aware that's okay, setting to me and you choose to say it anyways so that says enough to me about your intentions with me it says enough to me about how you plan to interact with me if I choose to continue interacting with you says enough to me upsetting for me to be on the phone the last time I was on the phone with you and the time before that and tonight I don't enjoy talking to you
speaker 1: so that makes me sad
speaker 2: it's it was your choice though you said that the last time I told you that and the tonight you decided to try to display the is there an assault she won't talk to my counselor card game
speaker 1: I never said it's your fault that what the counselor
speaker 2: is at what point does your behavior change so that the outcome isn't something that makes you sad at what point do you decide okay I don't want to be sad about this anymore so I'm not
speaker 1: there's nothing that I can do that makes you happy
speaker 2: stop telling me it's my fault for not talking to your counselor and you could hear
speaker 1: the one that doesn't talk to my counselor
speaker 2: but that doesn't mean that that's the reason that you're terrible to me it could be that the reason you're terrible to me is actually because you're terrible to me and not because I haven't done enough to communicate what you do that's terrible maybe I've done plenty to communicate what's terrible and maybe you just do terrible things maybe it's not my fault you should stop blaming me maybe if you weren't always blaming me then I wouldn't mind talking to you so much is this
speaker 1: like revolutionary stuff here I typed all our calls through the Google speech-to-text API and generated transcripts with the calls this week that's a lot of information that obviously doesn't generate perfect results but it does give some texts that we can search through for keywords which is not super easy to do at this point but I'm going to try and make a way to make it easy and it have less easy ways to search through them and work through the calls with my therapist which we have started doing I just wanted you to know that I feel worried about the data that you think is in the calls is not in the
speaker 2: calls it's probably not there's probably a lot more that there's probably a lot that I told you prior to our calls beginning to be recorded but that doesn't mean I didn't tell you but the truth is like you could just quit thinking about anything that's happened in the past and decide not to treat me poorly anymore in the future and you can understand that trying to make me feel guilty if you're trying to make me feel guilty for not the dealer that's it it doesn't matter what you're trying to do you know what the end result of saying things are and you choose to do them knowing they're going to upset me thinking that upsetting me might motivate them to behave the way that you wanted me to behave all
speaker 1: along
speaker 2: I
speaker 1: don't want to upset you. I want help you do you use for
speaker 2: help do you want to call me behave the way that you want me to behave you do want to manipulate me you do I say help me like I need your help you do want that like that I do need your help that is manipulative what you're doing right now is manipulative you're putting an emotional burden on me that is not my emotional burden you're putting a responsibility on me for your behavior that is not my responsibility if you would
speaker 1: just because
speaker 2: you're starting right now going forward. It would be okay but you are actively now this moment being terrible to me you're trying to convince know that you've given me all your money out of love and concern I mean that is truthful but it is manipulative is it's it's not true it's not there's more faith in Austin
speaker 1: not give you all the money I did do it because I live in fear about you
speaker 2: no you did it to manipulate me and it didn't
speaker 1: work you've been saying for a very long time that the reason that I should be able to work through this stuff if I can get this is that you've already told me I have our days and hours and hours of calls to be able to find it it's in the closets in the cars and now suddenly have a manageable way to price these calls and you immediately begin with and the information that you thought would be in there may not be in there and I
speaker 2: need to understand that is a manipulative powerful thing to say you are not doing well with relationships when you speak to me that way you need to stop I'm not going to continue doing business with you you used ideas about logistics of moving out as a way to get me on the phone with you against my will I do not choose to home conversations with you about how you supposedly are giving me all your money and supposedly don't like that's not a conversation that I want them to have with you because I don't enjoy talking to you because it feels so abusive and oppressive to me and you also use the logistics of moving out excuse to get me on the phone with you in order to try once again to make me feel like it's my fault that you are treating me so poorly because I won't talk to your therapist off a don't enjoy that I don't choose to have that conversation with you if you continue that conversation I'm going to hang up you can stop right now and you can be done doing that for the rest of your life and that would be a respectable normal thing to do do you continue I will hanging up are there any Logistics you want to discuss with me regarding a chain link fence I think we should put a gate there's already a gate it's already there when you built the driveway you didn't take down the gate I think you need you'll need to pull their for the you for the you to clip onto that the date itself is on its hinge and its
speaker 1: impact can I still come by and look at the material so I know if they're
speaker 2: usable when do you want to come by and look at the materials I'll go ahead and do it if that's okay with you right now
speaker 1: yes
speaker 2: it's 10:20
speaker 1: I'd like to know so that I can make
speaker 2: plans I just want to make sure that you're safe to drive sure that's not funny I'm not okay with you talking to me like that
speaker 1: I'm sorry
speaker 2: no it's not okay I'm sorry you're not going to treat me that way ever but it's not a very serious it is not okay
speaker 1: with me with what's actually not okay about it I don't know
speaker 2: it's not okay for you to act like you're not safe that's not okay
speaker 1: why did you ask me
speaker 2: because you're an adult and you can speak truthfully and you can say yes absolutely or no I better stay home and I'll check tomorrow morning you don't like you don't get to act to me like a lot like you're not sure if you're going to be safe that's really not okay I know that you do it to your mom and I know you make a lot of money off of it but it's not okay to do that to
speaker 1: me okay I'll drink I'll be safe
speaker 2: are there any Logistics you want to discuss with me relative to the items in your office right now
speaker 1: I mean are you moving them out this weekend or you're leaving them there this
speaker 2: weekend well I think it would be best for me to leave them there okay because
speaker 1: I will get my mom to rent a storage unit for them but I feel worried that you're going to think that I'm making our agreement about not using month but if I'm going to use other money to get a storage unit for that stuff then I will have to use my income which I told you I wouldn't
speaker 2: use I no understand what your question is is that a question
speaker 1: hold on you want to get started what I'm sorry what was that thing that you want to rent a storage unit great I don't want to rent a storage unit but if I'm going to remove the things from the office I can't put them on top of my head I got to have somewhere to put them
speaker 2: you said you want to make a choice or rent a storage unit I guess okay that's what you want to do right
speaker 1: no Aaron I want us to be a family wants to be
speaker 2: together but even if we're a family we can't afford to live in a four-bedroom on Amelia Island so stop it you're being manipulative and I don't enjoy that we're talking about your office and what you want to do with the
speaker 1: item I guess I will get my mom during a storage unit it would be really good to know if that's what you take out of this house cuz that's obviously super pregnant to signing a lease on a
speaker 2: storage you talked to him like this week and he told you like no we want you to stay here
speaker 1: or there is a debate about a month ago and no I talked to him maybe 10 days ago. About what was going to happen because Mitchell here in New Jersey and their daughters are coming to say and so they were going to have me stay in the study but then Jesse said no I'll stay in the study he can keep his room off and so you had the conversation about you know whether I would need to move out or not and they and they said well we definitely decided that you should stay with me to stay here forever lasting okay I'm seeing here however the last time the house got busy they kicked me out so
speaker 2: oh I see what you mean worried about you're worried yeah well the last time though I think they were thinking that they would just have you leave while their family came into
speaker 1: town yeah and then while I was gone they were like don't come
speaker 2: back yeah but that was because what you were doing to me legally I think they were thinking that was you know what I mean Behavior was getting worse not better I don't think it I don't I don't think the timing of it had anything to do with the fact that they were displacing you temporarily while family came into town I think that's two separate issues that happened to coincide last time you know what I mean
speaker 1: yeah
speaker 2: I don't think that like if they're not displacing you over family coming into town and that's and I'm sure that means that you're fine to say there while their family comes into town can
speaker 1: you please put these dolls in your box thing so that they're not scattered all over their house when they've got Beyond packed house
speaker 2: off why are they
speaker 1: scattered well you just put them in the garage and I live in a tiny little room that's already got boxes of unpacked or packed stuff
speaker 2: like I can give you more Baptists
speaker 1: I think that it would be impolite of me to get add another box of stuff to this room if it can be avoided
speaker 2: are you are you talking about getting the storage unit anyways though yeah this is just my what do you say to your mom to tell her to pay for storage unit for you as a grown man
speaker 1: like I don't and I she already knows that I gave you all my income so
speaker 2: like how do you explain that to
speaker 1: her this sound
speaker 2: like I'm crazy does she not tell you that you're crazy
speaker 1: yeah she tells me I'm crazy she told me I'm crazy
speaker 2: because think because what you're saying is not it's not really
speaker 1: do you want me to pay for the storage unit with my
speaker 2: income I think that I think that that kind of question is just part of you putting everything off on me and blaming me and being dependent on me and making everything my fault and it is just concerning that you're not able on your own to think about what's best for your
speaker 1: children I disagree with that statement and characterization completely you asked me to give you all of my income and I am doing that it's not because of your money because I
speaker 2: want I want to I wanted to see if you could be faithful to your family and you've proven time and time and time and time and time and time again that you can't that your
speaker 1: addictions anybody else we characterize my mother is stepping in to provide for me as an addiction or whatever
speaker 2: well if you need a fancier vape pen so that you can blow smoke rings as a trick to impress your friend so that's something a little bit different than yours okay I don't I don't want to talk about I don't want to talk about it anymore I was I was talking to you tell me what your salesman I was talking about your shopping for fancy your vape pen to do tricks and that be a little bit of a different goal in life and sending your kids to college that's that's all huh
speaker 1: I don't know I don't know what you're talking by doing that already doing
speaker 2: that I think that was my I think that was me I
speaker 1: don't think she bought me a fan Theory okay
speaker 2: well I don't think that you're getting extorting money from her to put in to your kids college you know I don't think that you're extorting money from her to save up for you should be able to go on a nice vacation I don't think you're supporting money from her to buy your children I don't think they you're extorting money from her
speaker 1: there's any money from
speaker 2: her where is that you are
speaker 1: any money from her okay
speaker 2: I mean you are
speaker 1: absolutely
speaker 2: absolutely dead so you're purchasing you're getting money from her to purchase things for yourself because she's scared that you'll kill yourself if she doesn't get it to
speaker 1: you
speaker 2: yes it is and you know that if you know exactly what tone of voice and you know exactly when to be intentionally vague which we ask you a question about your well-being you know you don't exactly how to keep her worried about you you know exactly who thing a few things like your paycheck giving all your paychecks to your life and not being allowed to ask is actually okay well that that is a part of getting your mom to worry about your mental health that is a part of getting your mom to be worried that you're going to kill yourself that as a part that you
speaker 1: want me to give you those paychecks I'm doing it because you asked
speaker 2: me just the emails
speaker 1: you have access to a touched any of my money in months it doesn't matter it doesn't matter what you're doing I mean matter because you want me to use it to pay for my expenses
speaker 2: second Dustin on using it to pay for the credit card bill that you ran up and most of that goes to interest using it to pay the mortgages I'm using it to pay the wage you can use any of the
speaker 1: income to pay for my expenses you do want me to or you don't want me to hey I thought you didn't want me to use any of the income because you were going to
speaker 2: use it Dustin you don't have expenses like these things that I'm saying that I needed before I'm I'm using it to pay your bills for your for children okay
speaker 1: if you want me to get the stuff out of the office I have to rent a storage do you want me to income that's that's an do you want me to use my name is
speaker 2: money that's an actual choice for you to make and it is deeply concerning to me that you want to put that off on me yes you want to put it on
speaker 1: not use any of my income so I've been doing that but now you're acting like I'm not getting my mother for having her paid for expenses a I can't understand anything that you
speaker 2: want everything on me do you not hear my responsibility yes you are you make everything after you my choice the you can blame it all on
speaker 1: me is it about this is something that you would ask me to
speaker 2: do it yourself and now you ask myself
speaker 1: asked me to give you all the
speaker 2: money
speaker 1: I actually need to go away
speaker 2: okay I don't think that you hear yourself on yourself during me for the decisions that you've made for what you want to do with your money that you have access to in your account I don't hear you taking responsibility for those choices at
speaker 1: all have it made any purchases with my money back but Daddy has to
speaker 2: happen to you that is deeply concerning to me that you're still speaking that way and you're still putting everything off on
speaker 1: me
speaker 2: I
speaker 1: don't know what you're talking about I I'm not putting anything off on you I'm accurately describing the fact that my account goes into an account that I haven't had I haven't touched that you requested found it
speaker 2: but that's your decision
speaker 1: and you are making it what I saying that that is the choice that I made is like there's nothing wrong know about it
speaker 2: but you haven't said that's a choice I've made
speaker 1: you said you told me for it and I decided to go because I love
speaker 2: okay well that's a month this is something new like you saying that you
speaker 1: made that it at least points on this phone call
speaker 2: you said that you did it to love and serve me because I asked them and that's that's over and over for that and that part it's concerning the same making that decision like that's completely different is there any information all
speaker 1: anyway for that scenario to play out without a decision being made to do it like an accident so it takes off the curve like high but you have to tell you say this about everything I'm not taking ownership of like living in my life making decisions like the decisions don't happen from some other dog outside entity on the one making the decision so
speaker 2: they're all tied to need they're all tied to what I wanted or would I
speaker 1: married and
speaker 2: okay
speaker 1: did you not want it like
speaker 2: no I did not know it's not what I wanted it's not even cool home because I was hoping that you would make a change in your behavior and that's not happened that's not true so are you still I used to control my income and now I don't
speaker 1: do either one of those at your request
speaker 2: you said that your mom is still out of control and you're still not transparent with me about that that has gotten worse
speaker 1: what I don't know what you mean I'm not being transparent with you you barely talk to me
speaker 2: well now now I have no way to know what you're spending because I'm not spending anymore I never asked me to send you I can't because I know that I have that hanging over my head for the rest of my life it can get thrown in my face that I ask to see your mom's credit card statement that's not what I want and I shouldn't have to ask that and never that never should have referred him that I'm not being transparent with like I say that's why I didn't bring it up sooner because wage no matter what the earliest comprehensible what you actually want if you
speaker 1: want to take statements I don't know if they offer it or I
speaker 2: don't I don't know I don't I just don't
speaker 1: want to buy a parent
speaker 2: I just don't want to be treated this way by anybody
speaker 1: it was I was not aware that you wanted something
speaker 2: I don't I don't know please tell me your mom's credit card statements just please don't do that please I'm begging off
speaker 1: okay I mean I wasn't even offering that they're not mind offer
speaker 2: no no please it's not
speaker 1: about offering that is not mine.
speaker 2: I know but let's stop pretending that I made that require so I did not make that request no but that being transparent and I don't know what you demonstrating is that I don't appreciate you bringing up that you're giving me all your page over and over and over like it was some request I made of you and you loved me
speaker 1: so much that you made of me but the context of thought was not that I
speaker 2: wanted money dusted the context of that was that I wanted faithfulness and we've not been faithful to me I don't know what that means the okay clearly
speaker 1: I did what you asked me to do so I haven't done something that you asked me to do.
speaker 2: Okay all right I I I told you that if the conversation was going in this direction I was going to get off the phone and so I'm going to follow through with what I said yeah
speaker 1: goodbye what there's something if there's some