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speaker 2: this call may be recorded he dusted do you remember when you were here last week and you told me that you go to Arby's on your mom's credit card all the time I told you that ago yes okay and you remember when I asked you why she tells you to use a credit card for food did you just ask me I asked you why she told you to use her credit card for food and you said I don't know you have to ask her to her mind I don't know why she told me you don't remember that just a little tired right now I'm not sure that I remember everything you just said you don't remember then I asked you why your mom was telling you to use her credit card for food don't remember that oh okay well maybe I'll get a better answer this time hey Dustin why did your mom say to use your credit card for food don't know if she lets the same thing you told me last time it did hurt my feelings that you told me to call her and ask her myself though I'm sorry that should be off limits for you to say stuff like that to me like that I should call your mom to ask her about sensitive information don't you think that's a little unfair for you to expect me to do that I mean I wasn't telling you to do that I've just thought that you actually want an answer to your question that is the right way to go about getting an answer to my question for me to call her on the phone if it's something that cut wood if you want an answer to a question that she has the Institute then you would have to call her but do you think that's wise do you think I should do that to that question was especially with testing well you said that you didn't tell her about your budget don't remember telling her about my budget her does she know that you're on a spending allowance I don't think so okay is that true that she didn't know why I just think it's weird how she's saying things about you can use my Amazon account and hide it from Aaron I remember he yeah he said I added you to my Amazon account but if that's going to be a problem but there is it just login using my email and password off what spending does she want you to hide from me I don't know I mean I think she was talking about me getting a president's verify payment which I never did why would your mom want you to hide that from me I don't know I mean it's concerning because it's so dysfunctional to encourage an adult son wage I things from his wife okay what was your wanting you to buy for scientists that needed to be a secret from your wife I have no idea whatever I want to probably why would that need to be a secret from me that's what you say if that's going to be a problem with area hide it cuz that's what she does I mean I don't just like she does do you understand that I would not have a relationship with my parents if they said stuff like that thank you do you get how out of bounds that behavior is I get that that behavior is out of bounds but I don't think that you can write off your parents because there's not you can like immediately to your parent I'm not willing to engage with you if you're going to be encouraging me to hide things for myself that's impossible with her ear and she know because then you can actually follow through I'm not going to write my mom off and not communicate with her just set boundaries he's not capable of she's capable of learning that when you encourage your son hide things from your life you don't get to talk to him for one month over I don't know how many repetitions it takes but at some point she learns that it's important to not encourage your son to hide things from his wife I guess I wasn't going to hide it from you so it did not concern me that I see is like that because I already know that she's like that but that's toxic to your brain to have to listen to it it's stressful and it upsets you I kind of rolls off at this point but that's not healthy yes you had to go to the restroom bye-bye