speaker 1:  hey
speaker 2: did you call the
speaker 1: police
speaker 2: oh it was there okay so he just probably wasn't interested in
speaker 1: yep
speaker 2: so I I can't put my children through this with you what they're not going to be okay if they grow up like
speaker 1: this what like what what
speaker 2: with you minimizing and denying and blame-shifting you you've been rude to me today and you've made me feel sad about things that were not my fault I mean for me you're acting like I was making some unfounded accusations and you were in Dyckman at me when he kept interrupting me to say no no
speaker 1: you're asking me a question I was giving you the answer to the
speaker 2: question I know as if I didn't have the right to be asking you if you keep asking the question already told me I knew
speaker 1: but not interrupted me
speaker 2: do you understand that right now you're minimizing what you did and you're denying what you did and shifting for what you did like this is the thing that you do you think about it so it early that you it's the thing that you do that is toxic and abusive and harming your family and for children to grow up seeing this month does irreparable damage I wasn't doing anything wrong or shameful I wasn't accusing you of
speaker 1: anything and
speaker 2: I know but for you to think that you have the right to indignant interrupt me and tell me I told you know I told you no
speaker 1: no I didn't say I told you know I said no which would be the answer to the question that you're asking
speaker 2: the reason that you were insisted that I'm not allowed to complete the sentence before you interrupt me with the work no was not because that's how you actually believe he lives should interact with one another there was a reason that you felt so entitled to treat me so poorly and you want to be in denial about that right now you don't do that to Janie like you know that you don't do that to Janie you know that if she was asking you a question you would let her finish her Senate her sentence and if you accidentally interrupted her wash your mouth got ahead of your brain and she went to ask you again you don't finish her sentence and then say well you know you know how long that you were feeling something and you know that you were treating me like something can I have some fantasy world where no such thing happened and you did nothing wrong and I can do that for ten years or fifteen years or fifteen years or but at some point at some point we need to both recognize that the price that our children are paying with their emotional social and psychological development is way way too high a price to pay for whatever it is you're getting out of this
speaker 1: okay I can argue with you about this right now
speaker 2: I'm not trying to argue with you I'm trying to give you information that you should definitely not argue
speaker 1: with I can you want me to finish working over here are you there hello
speaker 2: yeah I'm here
speaker 1: I'm sorry I interrupted you is there something else that you need from me right now
speaker 2: I need you to think about what you were feeling when you were interrupted
speaker 1: feeling like I was talking to you were talking at the same
speaker 2: time right but you know I was asking you a question did you interrupted me to say no because you didn't want me to finish my question and you know that you were feeling feelings I'm not talking about a fact of whether two people were speaking at the same time I'm talking about emotion I'm talking about chemical reactions that were happening in your brain causing you about perceptions about the situation on your end answer your question is you said no every time I was about to answer to your question but the only word you were saying was no you weren't still speaking so I there was nothing for me to interrupt but I did question again and again and again I never finished
speaker 1: okay well I'm sorry
speaker 2: for interrupting but you were feeling something when you were imagine in a fantasy that I was asking you the same thing again and again you were the feelings you know I was trying but you know I couldn't finish because you were feeling something
speaker 1: seems like you were sitting in that you would ask me the same question again and again
speaker 2: exactly you were having emotions that they were strong you were right off but of course they just taking Dustin I was being a servant to you like right down my ability to play with my children and I'm here laying down my ability to go out and guarded the ability to go for a walk that would be good for my health I'm laying down my whole life and I'm sending time shooting credit card charges reversed because you have a problem you're spending so much money that we don't have we're so far in debt and we're paying so much in interest every month it's crazy I'm here laying down my ability to have a real life and I'm cleaning up your messes out of love for you and you're feeling anger and resentment and annoyance and frustration indignation and contempt wage me and I'm getting emotionally punished by you I didn't do anything to deserve that it's not real it's not real
speaker 1: I like to think about this before I say anything more about it I don't want you to decide
speaker 2: and I do but you want to be to be the one who was interrupting you want to be the to be the one who is asking the same questions over and over you would need to be the one who wasn't listed but you want me to be all these terrible things that I'm not you want me to continue for years upon years and decades upon decades taking on the evil in the Sin of whatever it is that you're projecting or whatever it is that you want to blame your emotions that are out of control on to and I can do that because I'm strong and I can do that because I have a real sense of who I actually am in size but I can't do that in be a good mother I can't do that and expect my children to turn out
speaker 1: okay I
speaker 2: don't cry because I believe the things that you pretend about me I cry because there's nothing that I could do on my end to make it okay
speaker 1: I'd like to think about this before I say anything about it good bye-bye